How to not take dating so seriously
She is the founder of Mile High Mating, a website dedicated to helping people go on more dates, have more sex, and find more love in the Mile High City and beyond.Find her on Facebook and Twitter and at Mile High Mating.But as you’ve probably already discovered, it’s also important to be smart about whom you offer yourself to and about how to pace yourself so that your attachment to others develops over time.Often, a person becomes too attached too quickly because he or she has ignored important truths about relationships.There’s not a lot you can do about the fact that new people in your life will always put their best foot forward. But what you do is to remind yourself that we’re all human and that we all offer a complex mix of the good, the bad, and the ugly.Truth #1: There’s no such thing as the perfect person.Instead, such people have bought into certain myths that leave them vulnerable to feeling much more emotionally attached much more quickly than is good for them or for a potential relationship.Here are three myths that, if you believe them, can lead you to become too attached too soon.
Understanding that we all have hang-ups assists in letting down one’s guard and opening up to be more vulnerable.
When we really think about it, we know that nobody’s perfect.
But sometimes when we’re experiencing the excitement of a first date or a new relationship, we may idealize another person and forget this important truth.
A happy and meaningful future is created by two real-life individuals working hard together to blend their lives and deal with the realities of life and love.
There’s no magic castle you’ll move into to suddenly discover the happiness you’ve been missing.
Warren, We had the most amazing first date, and then we went out twice more that week. Are you the type of person who meets someone and immediately feels a strong bond with the person?